11 Tips for Keeping Your New Year’s Resolution
It’s that time of year again—time to think long and hard about what you’re going to commit to in the New Year. No matter what it is, the key is persistence and consistency. Commit yourself to your goal!
Unfortunately, not everyone makes it through the year with their goal still intact. As single parents, it’s even harder for people like you and me, who aren’t always able to commit 100% of our focus to our resolutions. If you’ve got aspirations and lofty goals for the coming year, here are a few tips any single parent can use to help them stay the course—even when life throws you a curve ball:
- Write it down. The best thing you can do is write your goal down and put it somewhere you’ll see it every day. I actually set an alarm on my phone, so I’m reminded of my goal every day at 9am.
- Do it every day. No matter what your goal is, engage with it every day in some form. Integrating your goal into your everyday life is a great way to intertwine it with your normal way of thinking.
- Be present for it. Don’t just go through the motions—really think about your goal. Whether it involves, diet, exercise, a habit, a professional goal or something else, keep your goal top-of-mind when you’re working toward it.
- Embrace difficulties. You’re not going to win every time. Sometimes, you’ll encounter setbacks—things that move the goalposts and make your goal harder to reach. Don’t be disheartened! Use challenge as motivation to fuel your success.
- Don’t compromise. Don’t settle for “good enough.” If your goal is to lose 25lbs, don’t settle for 24lbs. Don’t accept less than your goal because when you do, you’re telling yourself it’s okay to cheat yourself. If you want something, go get it!
- Stay accountable. Personal goals don’t have outside accountability. There’s no one making you do what you’re doing. You need to keep yourself accountable. Don’t let yourself slip up! Reward yourself for triumphs; kick yourself in the butt for failures.
- Buddy up. If you have a problem with self-accountability, find someone to help keep you in-check. Maybe that person has the same goals as you, and you can help each other reach them? No one says you have to go at it alone.
- Plan ahead. As a single parent, life can get chaotic fast. Planning ahead helps you stay on-target for your goals. Even when other priorities outrank your resolution, planning ahead can help you make sure you achieve it.
- Record it. I always find that keeping a record or log of my goal progress helps. Use an app to log progress, check the boxes on the calendar and set milestones you can celebrate. Being able to see your resolution’s record will help you see it through to completion.
- Learn to enjoy it. If you hate your resolution, you’re much more likely to tap out. To succeed, embrace your decision to get better and adopt a goal you admire. If you find yourself resenting your goal, readjust your perspective to keep it in a positive light.
- Be proud of yourself. You need to stay positive. Reward yourself when you reach milestones and do a little bragging to your friends and family every once in a while. It’s okay to be proud of yourself—it’ll only encourage you to keep going!
Single parents know the struggle of having to readjust priorities and put their needs on the backburner. This year, make sure you’re setting aside time, effort and focus on your own resolutions. I wish you the best of luck on your journey of self-improvement in 2020!